On Husbands and Wives

Sunday morning is a day to celebrate pajamas for a few extra hours. To drink another cup of coffee and enjoy some family time. But yesterday I think my family and I were the only ones in the state that had no idea it was Daily Lights Savings change. When I picked up the phone and blinked disbelieving at the numbers we had barely an hour to get everyone bathed, in church clothes, and packed for visiting my husbands family.

​I lost it. Like a General sure that all my troops are destined to go missing in action, I started to give orders and run around in a frenzy of pink girls' dresses, bubble baths, and coffee mugs. With absolute certainty I knew that I was the most un-fun person in my house.

​And yet fifty-five minutes later we were stuffed in the car, on our way to church. My husband leaned over, kissed my lips, and goofily said, "Good morning!" He had no hard feelings and had worked hard to get us to church. I let out a sigh of relief and smiled. Just when I think I couldn't love him more...

​Marriage is much different than I ever imagined. Like so many other women, I had to trade in some fantasies and accept reality.

​I didn't get Prince Charming. I got a steady, honest cowboy.
​I never had a castle, but everywhere I am with him is home.
I don't get flowers as much as I get support and affirmation.
I don't get candlelit dinners as much as I get laughter and hugs.
​While our relationship might come up short in romance it is abundant in understanding, friendship, and a deep love.
My husband keeps me going when my emotions tear me down. My husband keeps me believing in dreams even when life get hard.

​I think that a truth that has upheld my quality of life is that my husband is my other half, deserving of all the love, attention, and caring that I would want him to bestow on me. It is the most precious symbiotic relationship on the planet. When he hurts, I hurt. When I smile, he holds my hand.

​To all the women out their with great husbands in your life, here is to the men we are proud to call OURS, the men God knew would partner us on our journey through life and make it so much better than if we were alone.

​Love you, Jovani.

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“But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female. For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
​Mark 10:6-9