Please, raise your hand, if you have ever yelled at a child “Because I said so!” and had that child straightened up, look you straight in the eyes, and tell you, “That makes perfect sense, Mom. Thanks for explaining that.” Yeah, me neither. We’re not children and yet often with habit change we never have that deep conversation with ourselves about why.
It took me a very long time to feel in control around sugar and processed food. Honestly, I couldn’t get there or even take the steps toward healing, until I had a “why” that made sense. I don’t mean it made sense to scientists, but it made sense to my mind and my life. My “why” is all about my body and my mind. I got curious. Sure, documentaries and articles will tell me a thousand things about sugar and processed food, but I won’t believe it until I really examine the evidence in my life. When I got curious and paid attention, I noticed that I am very sensitive to these foods. They make me gain weight quickly, I have less energy when they are the main part of my diet, my skin breaks out, and my brain starts to chatter like a monkey about when we will get our next “fix”. It isn’t pretty. My “why” about limiting sugar and processed food makes it easy to turn down my brain's suggestion for constant treats. I don’t want to feel exhausted, distracted, or have a breakout. My “why” statement is that I don’t eat things that mess with my mind and body.
Finding your why is vital. It is the difference between just trying to get yourself to comply, and truly fueling your efforts with knowledge about what is best for you and your life. In the Bible Proverbs 18:15, ESV, says An intelligent heart acquires knowledge, and the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.
Today, I want you to level-up your habit change by becoming curious and finding the real “why” behind your habit change. Pay attention. How do you feel without this habit as part of your daily life? Does the change fit your lifestyle and family? How is your healthy emotionally, mentally, and physically these days? Pack it into a single powerful phrase that you can remind yourself when you are trying to remember why you are taking this break.
Journal Prompt: Why do you want to break this habit? How will this benefit your body, mind, heart, and soul? The next time you are tempted, what “why” will you tell yourself about not delving into this habit?
by Lora Armendariz
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