Do you just want to transform your world NOW? Uh, yeah, me, too. If there was a button we could push that made us smarter, kinder, more successful, and more financially sound we would be on that thing in a heartbeat. But, things don’t work that way because we have too much to lose if we miss out on the experience of working for it. Today we’ll be talking about how to stay in your fight for change for the long haul and why that is important.
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So, as I’ve mentioned, I really want to figure out how to consistently relax and enjoy time with others. Ugh. It sounds bizarre that this is my goal, but I’ve noticed that every time I am tempted to overeat or drink, it is usually because I’m overwhelmed, exhausted, and just need a break. However, I can’t just seem to magically jump from over-achieving time-nazi to relaxed chill wife, mother, and daughter of the Most High God. This is going to take some time. Like, DNA-changing-work. REALLY. But, as we talked about in the last episode, it is important that I take it day by day, recommitting to faith that God loves me and will guide me into healing.
Permanent change is hard. It takes a lot of work. Worst of all, it requires us to wait. When I lost my weight back in 2020, nothing really changed on the scale for the first couple weeks. I was making small changes, working on my thoughts and emotions more than the food. I knew it was what needed to happen since I was such an emotional eater, but it was hard not to give up the process and simply turn to the tried-and-true ultra restrictive diets. I knew I could lose weight FAST if I white-knuckled my way through another difficult hunger-filled couple of months. But, the weight would nearly jump right back on me the moment I pulled the constraints off my eating. For permanent weight loss we have to get really good at something that most of us detest: waiting. I know that sounds awful but if you could wait patiently while you put in the work, then you would find you could simply do the work without the dramatic breakdown of fear and frustration when the slower and permanent weight loss takes more time. Habit change is life-changing but it doesn’t happen overnight.
A few years ago I listened to an amazing sermon where the preacher, Levi Lusko, talked about small changes being incredibly powerful. He mentioned many worldly and Biblical examples of the concept but the one that struck me the most was from the Old Testament. As the Isrealites moved in to claim the promise land God said this in Exodus 23:30, “Little by little I will drive them out before you, until you have increased enough to take possession of the land.” He went on to explain that the Isrealites were not strong enough to keep possession of the land if He gave it to them all at once. They needed to increase in number and slowly establish themselves. Sweet sister, if you lost your weight all at once or simply woke up one day as healthy as a high school track star, would you know how to keep what you were given? Probably. We have to establish those habits, those routines that will allow us to maintain possession of the blessing of health.
Okay, I’m going to give you a little assignment today. I want you to think of the healthier version of yourself you would love to become, and I want you to list the habits she has. Include habits that affect physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational health. Now, this is the hard part, I want you to start on one or two of those habits now--not 25 habits. Two habits are doable. Two habits can be successful. Two habits a month would give you 24 established healthy habits by the end of the year. Think about it. If each habit helped you eat 50-100 less calories a day because you were taking care of yourself in a better way, then by the end of the year you could be eating over a thousand calories less than you do right now. AND, you would be eating less with the feeling of peace and well-being, not fear and restriction. You could keep it up indefinitely because those habits could just become who you are and what you do.
So, get out a journal, a spiral notebook, the notes app on your phone and answer these three questions:
What is the healthy woman you would like to become like?
What habits does she have established?
What are one or two habits you could work to put into place this month?
I hope the New Year is packed full of life and blessings for you, sweet sister. Don’t forget to take that quiz. Your results will include a series of emails to keep you encouraged and a list of episodes that specifically address some topics that are bound to be especially helpful for you. All my love to you! I’ll talk to you next week!
by Lora Armendariz
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